Self-Care as a Second-Generation American

As children of immigrants, we often grow up with a unique set of pressures. Our parents sacrificed so much, and we carry their hopes and dreams alongside our own. But somewhere along the way, many of us forgot that taking care of ourselves isn't selfish—it's necessary.

The Guilt Around Self-Care

If you've ever felt guilty for:

• Taking time for yourself instead of working
• Setting boundaries with family
• Pursuing your own interests over family expectations
• Simply resting when there's "always more to do"

You're not alone. This guilt is deeply rooted in cultural values around sacrifice, hard work, and putting family first.

Reframing Self-Care

Self-care isn't about abandoning your values or your family. It's about recognizing that you cannot pour from an empty cup. When you take care of your mental and emotional health, you actually become more present and available for the people you love.

Culturally Meaningful Self-Care

Self-care doesn't have to look like spa days and bubble baths (though those are nice too). It can include:

• Connecting with your heritage through food, music, or traditions
• Finding community with others who share your experiences
• Setting gentle boundaries that honor both yourself and your relationships
• Processing your emotions through journaling, therapy, or creative expression

Permission to Rest

You have permission to rest. You have permission to prioritize your mental health. You have permission to take up space and have needs.

Your parents' sacrifices don't require you to sacrifice your well-being. In fact, taking care of yourself might be one of the most powerful ways to honor their journey.

If you're struggling to navigate these complex dynamics, therapy can provide a supportive space to explore your identity and develop sustainable self-care practices that feel authentic to who you are.